Others call it MU or mutual understanding.
Pseudo-relationships.
Pseudo-boyfriends.
Pseudo-girlfriends.
Flings.
Almost a relationship but not quite.
It is a phase where the persons involved are more than friends, but not quite lovers.
Pseudo-relationships.
Pseudo-boyfriends.
Pseudo-girlfriends.
Flings.
Almost a relationship but not quite.
It is a phase where the persons involved are more than friends, but not quite lovers.
Pwedeng may verbal agreement, pwedeng wala. One or both of you may have admitted your feelings, possible ding hindi. You just let your gestures do the talking for you. Walang pormal na ligawan na nangyari. Hindi kayo mag-on. Pero sa mga kilos niyo, sa mga sinasabi niyo parang kyo pero hindi.
This kind of relationship can happen at different stages for different reasons. It can happen after a break-up. You still love each other, and you want to be with each other but you broke up for a reason. And for reasons that you alone know, ayaw niyo na muna magkabalikan. It can also happen before a relationship. Yung pareho kayong nakikiramdam. Possible din na ayaw niya munang mag-seryoso kaya kunwa-kunwarian lang muna. Testing lang… Pwede ring hindi pwedeng maging kayo kasi yung isa may ka-relasyon ng iba. Kaya habang hindi pa siya nakikipag-break doon sa gf/bf (sabi niya makikipag-break siya soon pero di naman niya ginawa). Wala muna kayong relasyon para nga naman hindi siya nangtutwo time kasi “HINDI NAMAN KAYO.”
This pseudo-relationship stage for a time can be fun. Lalo na kung naghahanap ka lang naman ng “kalaro”. Pero huwag ka lang mag-e-expect na may patutunguhan kayo kasi wala talagang kasiguraduhan.
So bakit ang daming nag-se-settle sa ganitong set up ganoong hindi naman sigurado kung may patutunguhan? Iba’t-ibang dahilan. Pwedeng for fun lang, for kilig feeling. pwedeng “buti na yan kesa sa wala” or pwede na yan “pantawid gutom”.
Meaning, habang wala pa yung “the real thing” , doon muna sa kunwa-kunwarian.
For those who are not in a serious relationship, they would think that pseudo relationship is better than no relationship at all, it would be fun if all you are after is that “kilig feeling”.
But then I learned, that although it was only a pseudo relationship because the emotions were real. And usually in this kind of set-up merong malulugi.......
Ung nainlove sa taong taken na.
1st you can’t ask him/her to commit. Since its not really a relationship you can’t demand commitment from your partner. Ano ba kayo? “diba wala…”
You will always be uncertain about your rolein his/her life.. you can’t expect him/her to be always with you. And as you feel jealous of the other boys/girls, you just have to keep it to yourself. Ano ka ba niya para magselos?
2nd what if you fall deeply in love with him/her? you can’t be sure if he/she feels the same way. Baka nag-a-assume ka lang na mahal ka rin niya. Even if you are dying to tell him/her that you love him/her, you can’t because your’e not sure if he/she will like it. Baka mapahiya ka lang.
This stage will always make you wonder you are in the relationship. Or if there is a relationship at all.
3rd what if you become attached too much? What if you have invested all your emotions and this man/woman hasn’t? what if you remain faithful to him/her not entertaining other guys/pals, only to find out that he/she is seeing other boys/girls. Isa pang downside ng pseudo relationships, it is fleeting. Yung parang gusto mong tumakas sa lahat ng pain na nararamdaman mo… when a disagreement sets in, or when one of you gets cold, then that would be the end of it. Unlike other relationship, hindi mo alam kung saan ka lulugar sa isang pseudo-relationship. Wala kang pinanghahawakan.
This kind of relationship can happen at different stages for different reasons. It can happen after a break-up. You still love each other, and you want to be with each other but you broke up for a reason. And for reasons that you alone know, ayaw niyo na muna magkabalikan. It can also happen before a relationship. Yung pareho kayong nakikiramdam. Possible din na ayaw niya munang mag-seryoso kaya kunwa-kunwarian lang muna. Testing lang… Pwede ring hindi pwedeng maging kayo kasi yung isa may ka-relasyon ng iba. Kaya habang hindi pa siya nakikipag-break doon sa gf/bf (sabi niya makikipag-break siya soon pero di naman niya ginawa). Wala muna kayong relasyon para nga naman hindi siya nangtutwo time kasi “HINDI NAMAN KAYO.”
This pseudo-relationship stage for a time can be fun. Lalo na kung naghahanap ka lang naman ng “kalaro”. Pero huwag ka lang mag-e-expect na may patutunguhan kayo kasi wala talagang kasiguraduhan.
So bakit ang daming nag-se-settle sa ganitong set up ganoong hindi naman sigurado kung may patutunguhan? Iba’t-ibang dahilan. Pwedeng for fun lang, for kilig feeling. pwedeng “buti na yan kesa sa wala” or pwede na yan “pantawid gutom”.
Meaning, habang wala pa yung “the real thing” , doon muna sa kunwa-kunwarian.
For those who are not in a serious relationship, they would think that pseudo relationship is better than no relationship at all, it would be fun if all you are after is that “kilig feeling”.
But then I learned, that although it was only a pseudo relationship because the emotions were real. And usually in this kind of set-up merong malulugi.......
Ung nainlove sa taong taken na.
1st you can’t ask him/her to commit. Since its not really a relationship you can’t demand commitment from your partner. Ano ba kayo? “diba wala…”
You will always be uncertain about your rolein his/her life.. you can’t expect him/her to be always with you. And as you feel jealous of the other boys/girls, you just have to keep it to yourself. Ano ka ba niya para magselos?
2nd what if you fall deeply in love with him/her? you can’t be sure if he/she feels the same way. Baka nag-a-assume ka lang na mahal ka rin niya. Even if you are dying to tell him/her that you love him/her, you can’t because your’e not sure if he/she will like it. Baka mapahiya ka lang.
This stage will always make you wonder you are in the relationship. Or if there is a relationship at all.
3rd what if you become attached too much? What if you have invested all your emotions and this man/woman hasn’t? what if you remain faithful to him/her not entertaining other guys/pals, only to find out that he/she is seeing other boys/girls. Isa pang downside ng pseudo relationships, it is fleeting. Yung parang gusto mong tumakas sa lahat ng pain na nararamdaman mo… when a disagreement sets in, or when one of you gets cold, then that would be the end of it. Unlike other relationship, hindi mo alam kung saan ka lulugar sa isang pseudo-relationship. Wala kang pinanghahawakan.
Kasi sa pseudo relationship….
THERE IS NO “US”
MERON LANG “ME & YOU”
HINDI “US”.
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